Allow Time For Anger
We can’t be honest about those vulnerable feelings or we might be seen. But isn’t that what anger is, we want to be seen, we want to be heard, we have feelings/emotions that want to be felt. It’s so much easier to be seen as angry than it is to vocalize hurt.
For me anger was either getting really quiet or the complete opposite of screaming at the top of my lungs. Often times, regretting being angry because I hated who I had become. I hated that I couldn’t show my real feelings. I hated still feeling hurt or sad or whatever it was.
For the first time I know what it feels like to be angry in loving kindness. WTF does that look like. It’s discharging energy. Its honoring and upholding your boundaries. Its speaking, your emotional vulnerable truth. It’s saying I need to be heard. It starts off with I statements, I feel…disrespected, hurt, disregarded, unvalued.
It’s okay to throw things (it discharges energy), it’s okay to tear a house upside-down, even Jesus turned a place of worship upside-down when found out people were using a place of worship as a marketplace (Matthew 21:12). God, has also shown his power when he was angry, a great example is Babylon (Jeremiah 50). If the boundaries were set and made clear, it is just to be angry when the boundaries have been crossed.
But it’s not okay to stay there. Don’t allow the anger to build up, anger is toxic to the whole body, physical, mental and emotional. Anger is easier to release when you start to address what’s really going on between the head and the heart. Anger is a mask for the truth. Guilt sets in when we aren’t being truthful to others and more importantly ourselves. We are meant to be happy, whole, loving and kind. As we are created in God’s image. So, let go of the guilt of being angry, get angry but then get back to being who you really are at your core.